Stop Cheating — How Not to Have an Affair with Ivan and Desaray Shores (Podcast #24)

Google how not to have an affair — you’ll see it’s a big issue. Ivan and Desaray Shores discuss practical insights to protect your marriage.

Desaray Shores wrote Letters to My Lover: Journey of an Adulterous Woman. It’s vulnerable. Gritty. It’s a true-life story of desperation, passion, infidelity, and heartbreak. But it doesn’t stop there. It’s a testimony of redemption and a quest for higher life-design.

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How Not to Have an Affair Highlights

  • Man and woman. It’s primal and powerful.
  • What exactly is cheating anyway?
  • We have to be strategic in our marriage because our Adversary is strategic.
  • The Creator backs up marriage when we make covenant with our spouse.
  • Establishing smart boundaries to protect our marriage.
  • Build a beautiful marriage as an antidote to a cheap, deceptive affair.
  • Marriage points to the sacred romance between Christ and His Church.

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Letters to My Lover: Journal of an Adulterous Woman is Desaray’s book about her true-life story. Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs is the book recommended by Ivan and Desaray in this episode.

Letters to My Lover: Journal of an Adulterous Woman by Desaray Shores

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“I knew I was worthless in the eyes of man. When I discovered God saw me differently, everything changed.” Personal worth is a deep yearning in the human heart. Desaray became an adulteress in her quest for it. Told through a series of letters, this is a true-life story of a young woman on a desperate search. Man after man could not satisfy, leaving her in unimaginable darkness … Then the man Jesus Christ shined, rescuing her with a boundless love, a grace freely offered. “Letters to My Lover” is a story of redemption. Restoration. Worth. A higher Life-Design. Desaray embraced it in Father God. Today, there’s no longer a reason to live in deception. She’s happily married, creating a family, and touching the hearts of young women with hope.

Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; the Respect He Desperately Needs by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

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A New York Times best-selling marriage book with more than one million copies sold! Based on over three decades of counseling, as well as scientific and biblical research, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs and his wife, Sarah, have already taken the Love & Respect message across America and are changing the way couples talk to, think about, and treat each other. What do you want for your marriage Want some peace? Want to feel close? Want to feel valued? Want to experience marriage the way God intended? Then why not try some Love and Respect. A wife has one driving need to feel loved. When that need is met, she is happy. A husband has one driving need to feel respected. When that need is met, he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy. Love & Respect reveals why spouses react negatively to each other, and how they can deal with such conflict quickly, easily, and biblically. What readers say about Love & Respect: “I’ve been married 35 years and have not heard this taught.” “This is the key that I have been missing.” “You connected all the dots for me.” “As a counselor, I have never been so excited about any material.” “You’re on to something huge here.” Partner Love & Respect with the Love & Respect Workbook for Couples, Individuals, and Groups for an added experience. Love & Respect is also available in Spanish, Amor y Respeto.

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